How to Make People ‘Know, Like & Trust’ You

Some people seem to be people magnets, and they seemingly make new friends everywhere they go. The process of getting to know others and developing relationships with them seems natural and easy for them. For others, however, meeting new people and developing great relationships seems to take much more time and effort. After all, meeting new people is only half the challenge. You also want the people you meet to like and trust you. These are foundations for a great relationship, but it can be difficult to accomplish these goals. If you find yourself wishing that you could make people “know, like and trust” you more easily, you may be able to achieve better results in your personal life as well as in your professional life by focusing on a few key tips.

Improve Your Self-Confidence

You may not think that how you feel about yourself will impact your ability to meet new people and to develop great relationships, but self-confidence is critical in making people want to get to know you more. Many people have something they dislike about themselves and that may make them feel self-conscious, and a smart idea is to do something about that. For example, some people are self-conscious about their smile and may shy away from social situations in their personal life or professional life. Taking time to whiten discoloured teeth (here are some options) or to obtain other types of dental cosmetic services may help you to feel better about yourself. Of course, your smile may be just one thing that you may feel self-conscious about. Something as simple as getting a new haircut, buying a few new cosmetics or buying few new outfits can make you feel much more confident, and this is something that will be projected to others when you meet them.

Start a Conversation

Starting a conversation is the first step to take to develop new relationships, but it also is one of the most challenging step for many people to take. It can be difficult to know what to say to a person you are meeting for the first time, and finding the right words to say to someone new can seem intimidating. One idea is to strike up a conversation about what is going on around you. For example, if you are at a party mingling with others, you can ask how they know the hosts, if they live in the area or even if they know what kind of dip is on the table. The start of a conversation may be to break the ice, and you can keep the conversation going if the other person shows interest in doing so. Keep in mind that not everyone will be open to having a conversation, and some people may simply answer your question and move on. You will not be able to make everyone you meet “know, like & trust” you, so avoid taking personal offence to those who do not want to continue on with a conversation.

Show Honest Interest in Other People

When you speak with people initially or when you meet up with them again, it is important to show honest interest in other people. Remembering their name is important, and it is also beneficial if you can remember other details about the conversation that you can inquire about. For example, the other person may have mentioned going on a vacation soon, and you can then inquire when you meet them again how their vacation was. You want to be personable and open about your own life and interests as well, so avoid bombarding the person with numerous questions about their life. This may seem invasive. Having a natural conversation that balances things about yourself with honest interest in the other person generally works well.

Go the Extra Mile

Getting to know people can take time, and you may need to have several great conversations with someone before you feel as though you can call each other more than simple acquaintances. However, when you want people to truly like you, you should go out of your way to do something nice or helpful for the other person. You may have heard the saying about how you have to be a friend to have a friend, and this is very true. Often, with new friends, you simply have to make a few small, thoughtful gestures. For example, if you are meeting for dinner at a restaurant that does not take reservations, you can volunteer to arrive early to put your name on the list. If they mention that their vehicle needs to go into the shop for service, you can volunteer to drive them back and forth. These are gestures that a true friend may make, but they are not huge gestures. Keep in mind that these gestures should be made with no expectation of return favours being made for you. They are simply made because you value the relationship that you have with this person and want to help them when you can.

Follow Through on What You Say

These efforts may help you to get to know people and for them to like you. However, developing trust often takes more time. Some people may trust easily, and others may not trust new people for a long time. In all cases, however, you can work toward building trust by following through on what you say. For example, if you say that you will meet them for dinner at a certain time, arrive on time. If you tell them you will text them with information the following day, do so. They may not confide in you initially, but you will lay the groundwork for trust when you prove with your actions that you are trustworthy and dependable.

Whether you want to make new friends or improve your efforts at developing professional relationships, these tips can help. Each person and relationship is unique, but these basic tips can be applied to almost all situations in your personal life as well as in your professional life.

About Nick Morris

Nick has a keen interest in writing, Adelaide and many topics of interest. He founded Adelaide Experts (this site) and also owns Adelaide Business Events, a site which aggregates all of the business events happening in and around Adelaide.

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